{"id":785,"date":"2017-01-26T22:25:50","date_gmt":"2017-01-26T21:25:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/niekbrouw.nl\/?page_id=785\/"},"modified":"2017-09-28T08:49:25","modified_gmt":"2017-09-28T07:49:25","slug":"love-aggression-depression","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/niekbrouw.nl\/es\/los-libros\/love-aggression-depression\/","title":{"rendered":"Love, Aggression, Depression"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Discovering Freedom. Recovering Health.<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">Why do you still think. When you could always <i>feel<\/i> so well<\/span><\/h3>\n<h1 class=\"p1\">Preview of the book<\/h1>\n<h2 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Table of contents<\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Author&#8217;s Foreword<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Part one: Illness from a different perspective<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">I Introduction<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">II Lack of Freedom Causes Illness, Illness<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>Causes Lack<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>of Freedom<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">1. Freedom<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>and lack of freedom<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">2. The well-balanced<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>human being<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">3. Well-balanced control systems<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">4. Illness as balance disorder<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">III The Foundations<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>of the Unique<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>Human Being<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">1. The unique human being<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">2. The spinal column<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">3. The muscles<\/span><!--nextpage--><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Part two: The psychological control system<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">IV The Psychological Foundation<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">1. Social emotions and real emotions<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">a. Love<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">b. Aggression<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">c. Depression<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">d. The unique need for emotions<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">V Dealing with Emotions<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">1. To observe emotions<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">2. Our ego-typical need for emotions<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">VI The Psychological Equilibrium<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">1. <span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>Input and output of emotions<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">2. Balance<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>disorder<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>and loss of control<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">3. Summary<\/span><!--nextpage--><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Part three: The theory in practice<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">VII Emotions as Source of Energy<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">VIII Balance Disorders in Practice<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">1. How<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>to recognize<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>a balance disorder<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">2. When we do become ill<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">3. What to do with this book?<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">IX Applications<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">1. The L-A-D system and pain<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">2. The L-A-D system and fear<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">3. The L-A-D system and sleeplessness<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">4. The L-A-D system and sexuality<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">5. Observation training &#8211; how to regain our emotional<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>equilibrium<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><!--nextpage--><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Foreword<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">The book you have in front of you describes the foundation of everything that bas life. Where in human life do we recognize this foundation? To answer that question we must return to the time of infancy, when we are in our beginning stages of emotional development. At that time we have only feelings, no knowledge.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>This book deals with emotions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>THE FOUNDATION OF LIFE AND OF BEING HUMAN IS TO FEEL<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">In ancient times the physician was priest, king, and healer, all in one. At that time medical thinking was based on the trinity of mind, soul, and spirit. In our society these terms are no longer clearly defined, because religion, culture, and society have given them a different content. I would like to define these terms on the basis of their original meaning.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">The mind is the outer form, the knowledge or the surface of things without inherent content. The soul is the content of the human being, which in effect is a person&#8217;s feeling, his emotional possibilities. The term spirit may be described as the steering mechanism in the unique human being; it is his own spontaneity, his starting mechanism for action, and sets his goals in life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">The soul gives content (feeling), to the mind (knowledge) and the spirit then gives the content a unique creative expression, its own action.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">The word body in the English terminology of<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>\u00abbody, mind, soul, and spirit\u00bb is a collective term. We speak of the emotional body, the spiritual body, and the body of the mind. I have not found this fourth concept (body) in either the Dutch or the German language, nor in Sanskrit.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">When we <i>look <\/i>at the human development from infancy to adulthood, we observe the growth of mind, soul, and spirit. Between birth and around age six the child is preoccupied with his emotional development (soul). He is building a good ego-typical frame of reference, his basic security in later life, which he will use to check his knowledge (mind) and his goals in life (spirit). The better his emotional development, the better his stability in life will be. During the stage from age six to twelve, school age, knowledge (the mind) is added, but as yet separated from the emotions. The emphasis is on knowledge, but after each period of learning the child goes back to feeling, playing, and dreaming. His posture also becomes more pronounced. Thus between infancy and age six the emotional development takes place and between ages six and twelve knowledge is added, with concentration (the mind) occurring separate from feeling.<\/span><!--nextpage--><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Finally, between age twelve and eighteen, the unique blending of feeling and knowledge takes place, by means of the starting mechanism (spirit) and accompanied by its own, new hormonal emotions. This amalgamation into a totality of mind, soul, and spirit in the unique individual is known as puberty.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">This book focuses on emotion (the soul), because when illness or other crises such as war occur, the human being will always return to the first certainties of his life. We think of it as a type of regression. When you are really tired, you regress\/revert to the first securities of life, and that is feeling. An ill patient is therefore, by definition, more in touch with his emotions and has a higher sensitivity than the healthy person.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">By virtue of this natural process a person will always start with his feelings when faced with critical changes in his life (illness or war), but also when faced with less threatening changes.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>When we buy a house for example, we first want it on the basis of our emotion (the soul stage). Then we consider the financial implications (knowledge, the mind stage).<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>After we have bought the house, we decorate or renovate it (the spirit stage). Only then has the house become our house. Other examples of changes in life are marriage, divorce, the birth of a child, a change of job, retirement, and so on.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">It will be clear how important it is that we have a good emotional development and that we are emotionally secure, in order for us to be able to make the right choices in life. This holds true also in case of illness.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">The intention of this book is to make the reader move again emotionally or, if circumstances have limited the emotional development, to retrieve this stage and to make it strong enough to be used as the prevention or cure of illness. It may also serve as the prevention or cure of unhappiness and fear.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">To possess the knowledge contained in this book is of less importance than to feel what it says, unless it must serve as an aid in healing others.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><!--nextpage--><\/p>\n<h1 class=\"p6\"><span class=\"s1\">Part one<\/span><\/h1>\n<h2 class=\"p8\"><span class=\"s1\"><i>ILLNESS FROM A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE<\/i><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3 class=\"p10\"><span class=\"s1\">CHAPTER ONE<\/span><\/h3>\n<p class=\"p11\"><span class=\"s1\"><i>Feeling<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">So here I am. More than three thousand kilometers from home. Two days ago, at 5:30 in the morning, I boarded a plane for the sunny south of France. Away from my practice in Holland for twenty days. Twenty days to set down my thoughts and theories on the sick and the healthy, which I have developed over the past ten years. Thoughts and theories I have applied during those years to myself as well as to my patients, and through which I gave the hopeless patient a chance to resume living in freedom, the healthy person a chance to achieve his optimal performance, and through which I kept myself going, all those years, despite my punishing daily tempo.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>A tempo that is forced upon me from outside, because more and more people appeal to me for help. But I simply believe that everyone has an appointed task in life. This is mine. Yet I too have a right, no an obligation, to maintain my equilibrium so that I can give my optimal performance.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>And so far I have been able to do that by following the same thought processes and theories that have helped so many of my patients regain their freedom, because I function in no way different from my patients despite our all being different and unique.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">The plane was full. Packed with people who all had their own expectations of the journey: tourists, business people, old-age pensioners going to<i> <\/i>winter in the sun, computer experts on their way to a congress, foreign laborers returning to their homeland.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">How to find one key word to describe all those unique individuals? How to discover one basic pattern in their actions, despite their unique individual talents and despite their unique individual experiences? How to say something about their future, their future health, and their future behavior? How can they retain their freedom and independence? How can they stay healthy, physically and mentally? I want to answer these questions in this book. I have twenty days and two have already gone by without my accomplishing anything, because just before coming here I picked up a flu bug. A simple cold, but severe enough that your thinking is dulled, your head feels plugged and every movement hurts. It restricts you, physically as well as mentally, with a sense of constraint, because the way you function is dependent on your body. There is no question that I can thank myself for this flu. I made myself a target these past few weeks. I had to make preparations for this trip, I had to see extra patients because I was closing my practice for three weeks, and I created a lot of tension in my body in anticipation of the performance I now must deliver. In spite of the years of explaining to many people how the unique basis for one&#8217;s optimal functioning lies within oneself, I am nervous.<\/span><!--nextpage--><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Now I must create a language that has to be intelligible to many unique individuals at once. Now I must address people who prefer to push anything new away from their minds, out of fear of themselves.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">New thoughts result in having to move again, but so many people want to stay rigid, have made themselves rigid out of fear of their own free will and free choice. Yet everyone knows that this very rigidity causes walls to crack. There must be mobility, always. Every structure must have flexibility or it may collapse. Everyone knows the principle of elasticity:<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>a ship&#8217;s mast bends and therefore does not break; a rubber band with elasticity will not break as quickly as one that is rigid, dried out. After a storm the supple reed rights itself, but the mighty tree lies felled, uprooted. Everyone knows. It is a principle that governs the human mind also. There has to be elasticity. So often I find that elasticity missing in people of our Western society. So often people allow society to make them rigid, by way of rules, laws, and the expectation patterns of others. Of course society must have rules. Rules that allow maximum freedom, that allows a person to be himself.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>Rules have to be rigid to offer clarity and security, but human beings must not be rigid. They must be in motion, physically and mentally, in order to have flexibility, to absorb shocks, like the ship&#8217;s mast, the building, and the reed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Too many people have become rigid because of society. They no longer live from within, on the basis of their feelings, but on the basis of their position in society, according to its rules, and they are bound by social expectation patterns imposed on them by others or by themselves. As a result they become rigid, self-alienated. They have no mobility; they do not bend with what happens to them. They resist until they crack or break.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><!--nextpage--><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">These thoughts brought me to a new approach to the human being, his illness and his health, his functioning and his dysfunctioning. It was the starting point of a fundamental way of thinking, which forms the basis of my therapy and reaches beyond the world of health care, having a much wider scope, as I shall put forward in this book.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">How did I ever happen to choose a direction different from the one in which my training had pointed me? Why did I want to create something new in a profession in which almost all creativity has been killed by commercial science? For that is how I see traditional medicine, as a commercial science. What counts is knowledge without feelings, based on knowing facts.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">But I chose the creative approach: a blend of knowledge and feelings. I do not think it was a matter of choice. It happened as a consequence of my nature and also of my observations, of all those impressions I received over the years, as a human being, as a physician, as an observer of the environment.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Seventeen years ago I started as a medical advisor to an insurance company. In the Netherlands every employee is insured against loss of wages in case of inability to work during illness. I was known in the industry as an insurance physician. It was unusual to start that way while so young. My colleagues were older specialists at the end of their career.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>They had seen enough during their lifetimes, had treated enough patients, and studied enough case histories.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>A medical advisor played a different role, focusing not upon the treatment, but much more on the policing factor. Yet I saw it as a distinct occupation. For me, a young doctor, there was the advantage of having to concern myself solely with the diagnostic process, aided only by my eyes, my hands, my ears, and possibly also a stethoscope and a reflex hammer, to reach a conclusion in the shortest possible time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">A medical advisor&#8217;s mind is not distracted by thoughts on the type of treatment either, because that falls outside his jurisdiction. Active treatment is handled by another sector of the medical profession. During those years I examined forty to sixty people in the course of a regular office day. How is it possible to make a quick diagnosis under those conditions? How do you decide whether someone is or is not ill? These were the questions I asked myself continually and I saw those questions in relation to people&#8217;s work environment, their social circumstances, and their history of complaints. The combination was what intrigued me, because a housewife with the flu somehow continues to function, maybe at a reduced level, but she functions, without any consequences for society, without the consequence of financial assistance, without consequences for a factory that has to operate around the clock<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><!--nextpage--><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">That is how I developed a quick eye for what was going on inside people, why they no longer functioned in their job. I wanted to understand the nature of a job that made one person stay home with the flu, another because of feeling tired, and still another with a backache. Other people in different jobs, suffering identical discomforts, kept on going without an apparent need to call it quits. There had to be a connection between the unique individual, his complaint, and the interaction with his job. Or there had to be a connection with his social environment, his family, the renovations at home, or maybe the evening and weekend course. It did not take me long to see and understand such connections.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">On the medical side, however, I noticed many other things. You often met people who had done the full medical circuit and still complained of feeling tired, of not functioning well in a job where they had been happy for many years. All of a sudden things did not go right any more. All the regular clinical-chemical, x-ray, and other tests had been given, and the result was: \u00abWe cannot find anything wrong, there is nothing the matter with you, you are just imagining things, it must be psychological.\u00bb<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">However, I could not detect any obvious reason for psychological dysfunctioning. The family got along well; the job was enjoyable, successful, and meaningful. Yet the person did not function properly. Two years later you would find someone like that back in your office. By now the complaint without visible symptoms had developed into a particular abnormality: a malignant lung tumor had been found. Now there was a valid reason for staying home, for not going to work, for being sick. A medical label had been attached, making the illness legitimate. Finally society would accept it. I could give many similar examples from my years as a medical advisor.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">During those years I tried to find a solution to the problem of their already being a dysfunctioning in the person&#8217;s cheerfulness and joy, in his inner happiness, before any medical evidence can be found. I wondered: how can l<i> <\/i>give concrete evidence of that dysfunctioning, that complaint without visible symptoms, before chemical analyses and assorted measuring devices confirm the presence of illness?<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><!--nextpage--><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">A revelation was the knowledge of the spinal column Dr. Matya Sickesz introduced me to through her system of ortho\u00admanual medicine. At a very early stage, long before there are any symptoms, a dysfunctioning of the spinal column and its mobility can be observed. The spinal column is the central regulating body for the nerves and their connections with the brain. The nerves lead from the spinal chord to the organs and are in control of the muscles, the veins and arteries, and really of everything needed by that beautiful plant, the body. The inspection of the entire spinal column and the pelvis supporting it was a great help in the diagnostic process that uses only eyes and hands, especially when dealing with a patient who showed no clear clinical-chemical or radiological abnormalities, but who nevertheless had complaints. A restriction in the functioning of the spinal column could be diagnosed with the aid of simple mobility tests, with your eyes and your hands. In neuro-anatomy each level has been charted and it is not difficult to recognize the location of a dysfunction somewhere else in the body, once you see a blockage in the spinal column. That was one aspect.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">But I still had questions. I noticed that there were many people who, while already showing a blockage in the spinal column, continued to function normally without registering discomfort. Sometimes years later, they would suddenly have symptoms, which could be traced to that blockage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">I therefore concluded that there had to be other factors present for a symptom to become apparent, not just a trauma, such as a fall down the stairs. This is how I arrived at the psyche as being the foundation for the unique human being. One person has a blockage while still young and lives to be eighty without ever having any real symptoms.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0 <\/span>Another registers discomfort at the first sign of a blockage. There has to be something more than just a mechanical abnormality in the motor mechanism.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Knowledge of the psycho-motor system, i.e. mental activity in combination with muscle action, collected from different disciplines, also helped me develop the ability to recognize a person&#8217;s dysfunctioning at an early stage. However, I still could not answer the question why people register discomfort, why they suffer pain in the multitude of possible ways pain can make its presence known. Therefore, there had to be something unique in the human being, something that at a certain moment causes complaints to surface along with the demonstrated abnormalities.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><!--nextpage--><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Apart from examining patients, one can also observe the social functioning and the personal performance of many other people. I made a study of professional singers, who had to give the same performance every evening, day after day, and also of actors and ballet dancers. Every evening they have a different way of expressing themselves, a different content. Why? The words are familiar. The vocal technique is familiar. The choreography is familiar. And yet each night that unique individual produces a different expression. Sometimes it is an expression of minimal quality; sometimes it reaches the highest level of creativity.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">All these observations convinced me that there has to be something unique in each individual &#8211; not something fixed or stable, but moving in time. Today: this way, tomorrow: that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Fifteen years ago I discovered one basis for the multitude of different behavior mechanisms. I was able to formulate which forces drive the unique individual, even though he is able to preserve his individual freedom, and even though his physical build and nature is uniquely his own. I was able to approach ill as well as healthy people in a different manner. I saw the cause of problems long before medical data could show anything. I could see the nature of the symptoms before the patient was able to verbalize his complaints.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">The first time I told my colleagues of my findings, <i>one foundation that is common to the psyche of each unique individual, <\/i>they reacted with disbelief. Was that really possible? Unique individuals, all with one common basis for their unique psyche? But as soon as I would unveil some of the mystery, they would want to know more, and as soon as they knew more, they too wanted to make use of it. A physician deals with unique individuals all the time, but he still takes the common factors into consideration. He considers the spinal column, the physical build, and the anatomical data. He knows the correct position of the vertebrae. He knows what they should look like. Regardless of the important individual differences, these data constitute anatomical invariables, just like the stomach and the liver. I hope to be able to explain that the basis for the psyche is just as useful a database in medicine, even though everyone is unique and has his own unique personality. The basis for the psyche remains constant, just like an anatomical invariable, regardless of differences in height, weight and skin color.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><!--nextpage--><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">To explain that theory I am here in this sunny place, three thousand kilometers from home. I came voluntarily, but I would probably never have come, if it had not been for the continuing encouragement I received from colleagues, politicians, executives, and friends, who are already familiar with this theory and who urged me again and again to finally put it on paper. Year after year they all pushed in the same direction, but each from a different perspective. One person saw in this theory the possibility to survive in his busy daily life. Another saw possibilities for improving his managerial skills. Others still were thereby able to maintain their highest level as a singer, or ballet dancer, or athlete. The painter saw possibilities to give more depth to his work. The politician was less vulnerable to attacks. But the greatest pressure brought to bear came from my patients. Patients suffering rheumatoid arthritis, who had learned to control their pain and aggression. Patients with malignant tumors, who gained control of their tumors. Or who achieved a balance in their relationship with the tumor, which made things easier at the end. Still others, who learned how to handle a cold. And last but not least, from my colleagues, specialists from different disciplines and general practitioners, who taught their patients to fight pain with the help of some simple arithmetic, without immediately feeling the need to reach for medical remedies, which take away one&#8217;s independence.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">The distant beach beckons. Diving for seashells, maybe some sailing? Going for a long walk in the sun. Being alone, without thoughts. It appeals to me, but I am tied to my chair. I have spent weeks preparing myself for this delivery. Now it has to come. All at once. I want to get out from under the heavy load I have placed on myself: to give form to those thoughts and feelings. It is difficult, looking for the right words to use with strangers, who have not asked any concrete questions. I think of the literature I have gone over once more. Of the thousand times I already explained and clarified everything. Of the amount of time I have invested in making the system watertight. Thoughts of Mariette and the children, who were left alone so often, because I had to work again. Of all those people who were dependent when they came to me, but whom I made independent, dependent only on themselves, and not on the doctor as is so often the case. Thoughts of all those cases coming to me over the years: backaches, stomachaches, and cancer in its final stages. I used the same system for all of them: only the language I used was different each time, adjusted to each person&#8217;s situation, his experiences, his life and his condition.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><!--nextpage--><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">I see the fingers of the patient with rheumatoid arthritis, which quickly lost some of their swelling; the primary liver tumor, which reduced in size; the cases of lumbago and sciatica, which responded quite markedly; the leukemia patient, whose blood count improved. I remember those first few times that I, a young doctor, used my own theory to do battle with cancer, where older colleagues, specialists, and patients had given up. All this goes through my mind, as I now face having to communicate the simplicity of this thought to an unknown audience, my way of fighting illness from within the person himself, with what he has himself, his psyche, his nature. I don&#8217;t mention nutrition and diet, nor medication. I have faith in the wonderful mechanism and organism of the human body, which is eminently able to break down, or not absorb, or filter out harmful substances, and which will find its own way, provided it can do so unrestricted. The control system behind the processes interests me, the processes themselves I trust implicitly. They have never disappointed me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">In this book I shall give a description of the psychological basis and foundation of each individual, even though that basis and foundation is unique for each individual. I shall describe how, with those constant data, everyone has the ability to deliver his optimal effort. Although this book deals mainly with the psyche from an angle that differs from the one we are familiar with in psychology or psychiatry, I must also address the ways of expression open to each person, that is, I must discuss muscles and skeleton.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">The description of the psyche I present is of a fairly exact mathematical nature. I am inclined to think mathematically, I am not a philosopher. I do not go into any of the well-known thoughts on the ways a person must build his inner strength, how he must live in order to be happy as based on religious standpoints, or on the views of sects -Hinduism, Buddhism, Christianity, Humanism. Each person is free to have his own convictions. What matters to me, is to lay a foundation. Only then is it possible for a human being to reach his goal.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><!--nextpage--><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">I have deliberately spoken of the foundation of the human being, whether it is his desire to become a singer, a top athlete, a clairvoyant, or a bus driver. Without free choice his optimal development will never be possible. The foundation is at the base, just like it is in construction. If we understand the psychological foundation of the human being, we are able to inspect it when cracks appear in the course of life. If we understand the foundation, we can repair the damage. We will not have to plaster over the cracks and holes. Every construction worker knows that. It also applies to the human being.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Ten years ago, reluctantly, I began to analyze the road back from an illness to the psychological foundation of the person. It is a simple method. That may be a handicap in these times. Simple things are not as readily accepted as difficult theories. The more expensive and the more complicated the treatment, the more people will put their faith in it. The method I shall now present has proven itself in practice over and over, not only subjectively, but also objectively as measured in clinical\u00ad chemical and radiological tests. Everything I tell you, the reader, not only has been proven a thousand times, but can be proven by you yourself. First within you, and then in your relationships with others. It is my hope and desire, that after reading this book, you will say: \u00abHow simple!\u00bb Just like the patient, who wrote afterwards:<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">That it is so simple<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">I found hard to believe<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">And now that I have proven it<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">It is beyond my comprehension<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">My God, how much I missed<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\">By not knowing what I knew.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Evereyone knows the law of resilience: the mast of a sailing vessel is not rigid and therefore doesn\u2019t break, apliant reed straightens itself after a heavy storm whereas a mighty tree is felled. 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